How to End an Argument with your Partner
10 Tips That Actually Works
You must have noticed that we tend to fight the most with the person we care about the most
Fortunately or Unfortunately, the people we care the most about, trigger our emotional being the most, and therefore our reactions, actions, over-reactions are most often tied to our personal history than the present moment
Various other parameters like your critical inner voices, psychological defense and attachment patterns also contribute to the degree of conflict we encounter with our partner
A morning filled with positivity and enthusiasm sets the tone for the rest of your day
When we get up in the morning, we come straight out of the fantasy dream world to this world, absolutely fresh and just like a new piece of clay ready to get molded in whatever the creator wants it to be
And hence learning to end arguments with your partner is not so easy a task but you certainly can improve your relation over time with these amazing and practical ways
So let's dive straight into the ways to end an argument with your partner
Fortunately or Unfortunately, the people we care the most about, trigger our emotional being the most, and therefore our reactions, actions, over-reactions are most often tied to our personal history than the present moment
Various other parameters like your critical inner voices, psychological defense and attachment patterns also contribute to the degree of conflict we encounter with our partner
A morning filled with positivity and enthusiasm sets the tone for the rest of your day
When we get up in the morning, we come straight out of the fantasy dream world to this world, absolutely fresh and just like a new piece of clay ready to get molded in whatever the creator wants it to be
And hence learning to end arguments with your partner is not so easy a task but you certainly can improve your relation over time with these amazing and practical ways
So let's dive straight into the ways to end an argument with your partner
Related Posts
> " 29 Habits for a Better Life "
> " 9 Ways to Stop Procrastination Forever "
> " 11 Ways to Overcome Stress and Anxiety "
> " 11 Tips to Create a Positive Mindset "
Ads and Affiliate links help me run this site and to show you the products I find beneficial, you may find them in post
At a Glance
Let's have a deeper understanding of each one of these amazing tips
At a Glance
- Stay Physically Close
- Don't Pre-Assume
- Agree to some changes
- Shut the filter of your inner critical voice
- Listen to Understand, not to Respond
- Take Time to Calm Down
- Avoid using Swear Words (Abusive Language)
- Feel the situation, but Do the right thing
- Use different Media to Proceed with the Argument
- Remember that your Relationship is worth Saving
Let's have a deeper understanding of each one of these amazing tips
1. Stay Physically Close
The calming effect that physical proximity has, is simply un-matchable
During a fight, we tend to part away from each other and staying close can give that warmth which is the need of the moment
Most of the times a simple hold or press of hands can work wonders in making your significant other, feel the importance they have in your Life
Try your best to stay close to each other during flaring tempers, and physical gestures like a hold of hands or rubbing your knees against theirs can work what no other word or gesture ever can
Checkout " How to be happy in Life : 11 Ways to Create a Life You Love" to learn about how to keep yourself Happy and energetic
Related posts
2. Don't Pre-Assume
We have this habit of pre-assuming a lot of things that end up with us perceiving things way different than what it actually is
Develop a habit of hearing out the other person's version of the story before judging them and arriving on a verdict
Clarify all the details that you are assuming and most of the times you will be finding that a lot of what you pre-assume is not true
Implement this strategy to lower down the unnecessary stress levels you keep developing
Never ever come to a verdict without hearing the other person out completely, otherwise you will turn the time that could be spent more constructively into unnecessary worries
Develop a habit of hearing out the other person's version of the story before judging them and arriving on a verdict
Clarify all the details that you are assuming and most of the times you will be finding that a lot of what you pre-assume is not true
Implement this strategy to lower down the unnecessary stress levels you keep developing
Never ever come to a verdict without hearing the other person out completely, otherwise you will turn the time that could be spent more constructively into unnecessary worries
3. Agree to Some Changes
One of the best way to proceed in an argument is to put the other person in your shoes
To do that simply ask them " Ok that sounds great !!! Could you please tell me what I am doing wrong and how would you advice me to do it better ? "
This will immediately put them into a more practical approach rather than just saying or arguing for the sake of it
To give you an advice they would have to put themselves in your shoes and in doing that he will probably realize that what you are doing is infact the best response to that situation
And even if they come up with some really amazing advice then that solves your problem of wasting time in finding a better way of doing it, simply accept the better option and proceed
Related Posts
> " 29 Habits for a Better Life "
> " 8 Ways to Improve Work Performance "
> " 11 Ways to Create a Life You Love "
> " 9 Tips to Stop Procrastination Forever "
> " 8 Ways to Improve Work Performance "
> " 11 Ways to Create a Life You Love "
> " 9 Tips to Stop Procrastination Forever "
4. Shut the filter of your inner critical voice
Everyone has some filters that our sub conscious mind puts from time to time, and this is what we call bias
While dealing with an argument, these irrelevant thoughts that create a bias needs to be shut completely
And the best way to do that is by simply mastering the art of listening to the other persons point of view and analyzing it on the basis of facts
Don't let the image of what you think let you distort your partner's facts and point of view
This will help you have a constructive and happy long lasting relation
Checkout " How to be happy in Life : 11 Ways to Create a Life You Love" to learn about how to keep yourself Happy
While dealing with an argument, these irrelevant thoughts that create a bias needs to be shut completely
And the best way to do that is by simply mastering the art of listening to the other persons point of view and analyzing it on the basis of facts
Don't let the image of what you think let you distort your partner's facts and point of view
This will help you have a constructive and happy long lasting relation
Checkout " How to be happy in Life : 11 Ways to Create a Life You Love" to learn about how to keep yourself Happy
5. Listen to Understand, not to respond
This again is a tip to master the art of settling argument
And the Tip is to
LISTEN
LISTEN
and LISTEN
Listen to understand the situation and circumstances and not to simply respond
Throw your guard off, you are not there to fight and win in an argument, an argument is not a battlefield
It is an exchange of point of views to come to a rationale and common understanding to deal with the situation
Simply put all your focus and mental calculations to picture the situation by using the facts and figures and then analyze the best possible solution with your significant other
Many a times we simply listen to respond and that is what curbs our thinking and can only turn things sour
6. Take Time to Calm Down
Never respond when you are angry, because that is when we end up uttering things we neither mean nor would say otherwise, even to our enemies
Take some Time, usually 5 mins to simply sit back, drink some water and then proceed with your response
Giving yourself some Time will calm your nervous system down and will give your brain a boost to think more rationally
Taking these 5 mins can help you save loads of trouble and Time, by avoiding the things that should and must be avoided
7. Avoid using Swear words (Abusive language)
Swear words can simply turn a normal simple argument into a full fledged fight and have often resulted in much dire consequences
So make it a habit of using the most noble words, while arguing or simply having a discussion over a topic wherein you have contradicting views to your partner
A swear word may be portrayed as looking cool or fashionable, but indeed it is the worst that you could ever do to compare your partner to something so bad
And when the tempers are high, even a small flicker can turn into a forest fire, so choose your words very carefully while being in an argument
It is much easier said than done, but when one of the most important person in your Life is concerned, you have to be extra cautious
8. Feel the situation, but Do the right thing
Getting a gist of the situation is very important and to do that, sitting down and listening is essential, but that does not mean hiding your feelings or not considering the facts
Access the situation without any bias, while still feeling what your partner is trying to convey and then present what you feel is the best to proceed in that situation, even if it is something not very similar to what your partner is suggesting
This way you both will be having a basket of ideas to brainstorm and choose from in any situation
But make sure to be open to genuine better ways to proceed in that situation while brainstorming on those ideas
9. Use different media to proceed with the Argument
Text is the worst way of communication, because it can never capture the true emotions of a person, no matter what or how many emoticons you use
A simple call or a video call is much better than arguing via text because it offers a better understanding of a persons current state of mind and circumstances
The best way to have an argument is by being physically present with each other, as it gives the best idea about what the other person is feeling mentally, physically and emotionally
Instead of just arguing over a phone call or a text, simply go for a small meeting at a coffee shop or a nearby park
A simple call or a video call is much better than arguing via text because it offers a better understanding of a persons current state of mind and circumstances
The best way to have an argument is by being physically present with each other, as it gives the best idea about what the other person is feeling mentally, physically and emotionally
Instead of just arguing over a phone call or a text, simply go for a small meeting at a coffee shop or a nearby park
10. Remember that your Relationship is worth Saving
Remember all the sweet and amazing memories you both had together
Go through an old album to find reasons to stick with your partner
More often than not, you will be realizing that this argument is not even worthy of putting your relationship at stake
Simply find better ways to communicate and spend time with your partner while working on improving any bad habit that might be creating problems again and again
Checkout " How to be positive in Life"
Loved these Tips ???
Subscribe to receive more such interesting articles directly to your Inbox
Share what you feel in Comment Box for others to Benefit too !!!
Checkout:
Implementation is the key to Success
Even a Good Execution is way better than the Best of the Thoughts, so don't just read it and forget, instead start implementing and Enjoy the Heaven on earth.
Good Bye !!!
Have a Great Day !!!
Looking forward to See You Again Soon !!!
){kind=link}
0 Comments