How to be Happy in Life
11 Ways to Create a Life You Love
We all want Happiness in our lives !!!
But have you ever wondered what is it that we call Happiness ???
Is it Fame???
Is it Money???
Or Is it a Feeling???
The Oxford defines Happiness as "The state of being Happy"
To understand it more clearly lets see what "Happy" means
According to Oxford Dictionary "Happy" means "feeling or showing pleasure or contentment"
That gives us some clarity that Happiness basically means "the state of feeling content and pleased"
Simply speaking Happiness is the ability to find gratitude and satisfaction in the moment that you have right now
And Happiness is something that can be easily created by making some really small but very powerful changes in ourselves, our surroundings and our relationships.
So lets dive into the 11 ways to make you feel happy and create a Life You Love
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1. Conquer Your Mind
Yeah you read that right !!!
Buddha said "Conquer Your Mind and You will WIN thousands of battles"
Often times we don't realize that the biggest battle we could ever be fighting in our entire lifetime is within our minds, with ourselves only
And that is what Buddha so graciously identified and talked about in that quote
Now the question is How to Conquer Your Mind ??
Humans are beautifully designed by GOD to ruminate more on negative experiences than the positive ones
WAIT !!! WHAT???
We are designed to think more about our negative experiences than the positive ones??
Well that is absolutely correct
Okay that might be a little bit difficult to digest but that is what is the case and the reason behind this is "Evolutionary Adaption", i.e to learn from our bad experiences and negative encounters to avoid them in future
This means that you have to work a bit harder to do away with your negative thoughts
Accept that you have negative thoughts
Unlike most people who refuse to accept that they are having a negative thought in their minds simply accept that, it will absorb all the power out of that negative thought.
You might have noticed the more we say that "I will not think of a pink horse", the first think that your mind will make you to think will be a "pink horse"
So don't just give these thoughts power over you by simply accepting them and not thinking or avoiding to think about them.
Advice yourself as a Friend
What advice would you give a friend of yours when feeling down and in the same situation?
Now apply the same to your situation
Why is it important to give ourselves an advice as a friend?
Because we tend to give the best advises to others...That's what we do!!!
Assess your situation and give yourself a positive boost
Assess the situations and circumstances based on facts
Ask questions that help you realize the truth and facts about the basis of your negative thought and more often than not you will be realizing that you were over stressing unnecessarily.
That is the power of discovering the truth
Use questions like
What are the facts to prove this?
Am I biased to judge on this situation?
Am I understanding the situation correctly?
What would have been my reaction had it happen to someone else?
Is it really worth the time stressing about?
What is the worst impact it could ever have?
The crux of it all is that negative thoughts come to all so learn to deal with them rather than trying to avoid them and keep fueling them with power over you and your happiness.
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And it does so because breathing is what gives our body the much needed liveliness and energy by helping in the flow of fluids
Everyone must master the art of breathing for two reasons primarily
One because it is absolutely free and flexible to implement in terms of time and place
Breathing practices can help reduce symptoms like anxiety, insomnia, attention deficit disorder, depression and a multitude of other such disorders
There are tons of Youtube channels teaching the benefits of Yoga and breath control
So just take some time out and learn some breath control exercises that are easy to implement almost anywhere and at any time of the day
You will notice the amount of freshness and positivity almost instantly on repeating these easy tactics with your breath
Jason Stephenson on Youtube is one of my favourite as far as meditation and breath control goes
There are tons of books on it too, try reading a few in your spare time
Here are a few I personally recommend on Amazon
Buddha said "Conquer Your Mind and You will WIN thousands of battles"
Often times we don't realize that the biggest battle we could ever be fighting in our entire lifetime is within our minds, with ourselves only
And that is what Buddha so graciously identified and talked about in that quote
Now the question is How to Conquer Your Mind ??
Humans are beautifully designed by GOD to ruminate more on negative experiences than the positive ones
WAIT !!! WHAT???
We are designed to think more about our negative experiences than the positive ones??
Well that is absolutely correct
Okay that might be a little bit difficult to digest but that is what is the case and the reason behind this is "Evolutionary Adaption", i.e to learn from our bad experiences and negative encounters to avoid them in future
This means that you have to work a bit harder to do away with your negative thoughts
Accept that you have negative thoughts
Unlike most people who refuse to accept that they are having a negative thought in their minds simply accept that, it will absorb all the power out of that negative thought.
You might have noticed the more we say that "I will not think of a pink horse", the first think that your mind will make you to think will be a "pink horse"
So don't just give these thoughts power over you by simply accepting them and not thinking or avoiding to think about them.
Advice yourself as a Friend
What advice would you give a friend of yours when feeling down and in the same situation?
Now apply the same to your situation
Why is it important to give ourselves an advice as a friend?
Because we tend to give the best advises to others...That's what we do!!!
Assess your situation and give yourself a positive boost
Assess the situations and circumstances based on facts
Ask questions that help you realize the truth and facts about the basis of your negative thought and more often than not you will be realizing that you were over stressing unnecessarily.
That is the power of discovering the truth
Use questions like
What are the facts to prove this?
Am I biased to judge on this situation?
Am I understanding the situation correctly?
What would have been my reaction had it happen to someone else?
Is it really worth the time stressing about?
What is the worst impact it could ever have?
The crux of it all is that negative thoughts come to all so learn to deal with them rather than trying to avoid them and keep fueling them with power over you and your happiness.
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2. Practice Optimism
Nothing is more powerful than the power of a Positive thought
History speaks volumes about armies and personalities that have won wars and situations just with the power of a positive belief
Let's make it very clear from the very beginning that Optimism doesn't mean ignoring the dire adverse situations of Life
It simply means to think in a positive and more affirmative way for every situation
Like when fired from a job
One can opt to think about the freedom to choose a new job role and trying out different challenging responsibilities, over the gloomy thought that you are doomed.
And more often than not you will find people with positive outlook to every situation attract a lot of positive energy and positive people naturally, and that is what any company tend to see in their employees in addition to technical competency.
So make a resolution to yourself right now to find positive things in everything that happens to you daily
Lastly Optimism is infectious just like pessimism, so try hanging out with optimistic people and you will find yourself surrounded with positivity and Happiness
History speaks volumes about armies and personalities that have won wars and situations just with the power of a positive belief
Let's make it very clear from the very beginning that Optimism doesn't mean ignoring the dire adverse situations of Life
It simply means to think in a positive and more affirmative way for every situation
Like when fired from a job
One can opt to think about the freedom to choose a new job role and trying out different challenging responsibilities, over the gloomy thought that you are doomed.
And more often than not you will find people with positive outlook to every situation attract a lot of positive energy and positive people naturally, and that is what any company tend to see in their employees in addition to technical competency.
So make a resolution to yourself right now to find positive things in everything that happens to you daily
Lastly Optimism is infectious just like pessimism, so try hanging out with optimistic people and you will find yourself surrounded with positivity and Happiness
3. Master the Art of Controlled Breathing
Breathing is what differentiates a live body from a dead bodyAnd it does so because breathing is what gives our body the much needed liveliness and energy by helping in the flow of fluids
Everyone must master the art of breathing for two reasons primarily
One because it is absolutely free and flexible to implement in terms of time and place
There are tons of Youtube channels teaching the benefits of Yoga and breath control
So just take some time out and learn some breath control exercises that are easy to implement almost anywhere and at any time of the day
You will notice the amount of freshness and positivity almost instantly on repeating these easy tactics with your breath
Jason Stephenson on Youtube is one of my favourite as far as meditation and breath control goes
There are tons of books on it too, try reading a few in your spare time
Here are a few I personally recommend on Amazon
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4. Follow the 1-Minute Rule
Now what is this 1-Minute Rule??
According to this golden rule or more of a 1-Minute Challenge, just identify small small jobs and tasks that can be finished within a minute
Make a list of all those tasks and write them down on a notepad or your tablet
These tasks can be as easy as
Picking your clothes and folding them and putting at their proper place
Cleaning your shower area
Placing your shoes at their proper place
Arranging your makeup at the makeup table properly
Placing your towels at their respective place
Dusting your bookshelf
Washing your Coffee Mug and so on ....
The evident and question now would be How is this gonna make me happy ??
We humans tend to find a boost in confidence and overall persona whenever we finish our job in Time
The small small jobs that you might already be doing doesn't add to this confidence because we don't often see them as goals or tasks to complete
By making a list and ticking those boxes after finishing them satisfactorily you will see that you have achieved so much in such a minuscule of time
This will boost your self belief and enhance your confidence in your commitments to yourself
Mark my words here, note them down somewhere if possible but this is the key to happiness "Honoring your Commitments to Yourself " is the most important confidence booster
If you make it a habit of honoring your 1-minute commitments, 5-minute commitments, 1-hour commitments and so on you will be realizing that you now have the ability to make true what you commit to yourself.
So boost up your self belief by practicing this 1-Minute Rule.
PS : Even if none of this happens to you (which is worst to worst case ), still you will end up making your space cleaner and better which anyway is gonna boost your mood because humans love clean and lovely ambiance.
According to this golden rule or more of a 1-Minute Challenge, just identify small small jobs and tasks that can be finished within a minute
Make a list of all those tasks and write them down on a notepad or your tablet
These tasks can be as easy as
Picking your clothes and folding them and putting at their proper place
Cleaning your shower area
Placing your shoes at their proper place
Arranging your makeup at the makeup table properly
Placing your towels at their respective place
Dusting your bookshelf
Washing your Coffee Mug and so on ....
The evident and question now would be How is this gonna make me happy ??
We humans tend to find a boost in confidence and overall persona whenever we finish our job in Time
The small small jobs that you might already be doing doesn't add to this confidence because we don't often see them as goals or tasks to complete
By making a list and ticking those boxes after finishing them satisfactorily you will see that you have achieved so much in such a minuscule of time
This will boost your self belief and enhance your confidence in your commitments to yourself
Mark my words here, note them down somewhere if possible but this is the key to happiness "Honoring your Commitments to Yourself " is the most important confidence booster
If you make it a habit of honoring your 1-minute commitments, 5-minute commitments, 1-hour commitments and so on you will be realizing that you now have the ability to make true what you commit to yourself.
So boost up your self belief by practicing this 1-Minute Rule.
PS : Even if none of this happens to you (which is worst to worst case ), still you will end up making your space cleaner and better which anyway is gonna boost your mood because humans love clean and lovely ambiance.
5. Master the Art of Getting Rid of Things
KonMari Method teaches us about the Art of Getting Rid of Not so Positive or productive Things
Taught by a Japanese Guru Marie Kondo this is a masterpiece in itself teaching us about the importance of keeping the things we love around us while removing the things that are just occupying space around you.
This is a very creative method to declutter and organize your Home while having fun
According to this technique just hold everything in your Hand and think for a moment whether that thing is really important or special or something that gives value and purpose to your Life ?
If the answer is "NO", and there can be just two definite answers possible here, Either a clear "YES" or anything less than that is a sure "NO" and if the answer is "NO" then you really can do without that thing in your Life
Use this powerful method to lighten the burden both physically and emotionally and take a leap towards a successful and a happy Life
You can learn more about KonMari Method via some courses on Udemy or via some Youtube videos or the following books will definitely add some spice in your Life via this amazing strategy
Taught by a Japanese Guru Marie Kondo this is a masterpiece in itself teaching us about the importance of keeping the things we love around us while removing the things that are just occupying space around you.
This is a very creative method to declutter and organize your Home while having fun
According to this technique just hold everything in your Hand and think for a moment whether that thing is really important or special or something that gives value and purpose to your Life ?
If the answer is "NO", and there can be just two definite answers possible here, Either a clear "YES" or anything less than that is a sure "NO" and if the answer is "NO" then you really can do without that thing in your Life
Use this powerful method to lighten the burden both physically and emotionally and take a leap towards a successful and a happy Life
You can learn more about KonMari Method via some courses on Udemy or via some Youtube videos or the following books will definitely add some spice in your Life via this amazing strategy
6. Choose a Happening Community
We humans are a social being and hence choice of community affects our happiness and energy
The Knight Foundation and Gallup surveyed 43000 people in 26 communities to find out the factors that determines whether a community is impacting you positively or not
The major contributors to our happiness are :
a) Openness and Togetherness
People love to be in places where they feel welcomed and appreciated. So a community that is welcoming to new members with a warmth is absolutely a positive and happy place to be in
b) Serenic Beauty
Humans admire and are attracted to beautiful things and when it comes to the choice of place to live in, serenic beauty and ambiance plays a vital role in keeping us happy and energetic
c) Social Events and Gatherings
The Knight Foundation and Gallup surveyed 43000 people in 26 communities to find out the factors that determines whether a community is impacting you positively or not
The major contributors to our happiness are :
a) Openness and Togetherness
People love to be in places where they feel welcomed and appreciated. So a community that is welcoming to new members with a warmth is absolutely a positive and happy place to be in
b) Serenic Beauty
Humans admire and are attracted to beautiful things and when it comes to the choice of place to live in, serenic beauty and ambiance plays a vital role in keeping us happy and energetic
c) Social Events and Gatherings
A community that celebrates and find reasons for social gatherings are always a better place to be and grow in than a place where people are hardly bothered about their neighbors
Keep all these reasons in mind while choosing a community for living and if possible stay at rent at any place for few months and then decide whether to buy a house in that locality or not
Look for neighborhoods with green commons and community parks, street festivals and gatherings
Even if that is not possible, encourage the community you currently live in to start organizing small get together and events celebrating each others success and life events like birthdays and anniversaries
7. Spend some Quality Time in Nature
Nature is what we belong to
GOD sent us in nature's lap before we built this cemented world for ourselves, but naturally our body feels much more relaxed and happy when in nature's lap
Find out some time that you can spend in Nature, be it a simple walk in the park or some trip out to some serenic beauty, with friends and family or even alone sometimes.
The natural calmness and beauty brings much needed positivity and freshness to our moods and helps in both mental and physical relaxation of the body.
So once in a while spend some time out in Nature
GOD sent us in nature's lap before we built this cemented world for ourselves, but naturally our body feels much more relaxed and happy when in nature's lap
Find out some time that you can spend in Nature, be it a simple walk in the park or some trip out to some serenic beauty, with friends and family or even alone sometimes.
The natural calmness and beauty brings much needed positivity and freshness to our moods and helps in both mental and physical relaxation of the body.
So once in a while spend some time out in Nature
8. Make your Bedroom, Your Best Room
Bedroom is where you experience the best of your moments
From the best of your sleeps to the most romantic moments of your Life, everything best happens in your Bedrooms, so make sure you make it a place you love to spend some quality time in
This is the best way to feel absolutely relaxed and positive
When you go on a vacation and live in some of the very best hotel rooms and cottages that feeling of calmness and peacefulness is simply amazing
Create a similar sort of experience in your Bedroom and you will be feeling an extra ounce of energy and positivity
Buy new comfortable bed-sheets, buy some home decors to make the place lit up, use room fresheners, place some plants in the room to make way for some fresh oxygen
All in all, make it the place you would love to spend time in
From the best of your sleeps to the most romantic moments of your Life, everything best happens in your Bedrooms, so make sure you make it a place you love to spend some quality time in
This is the best way to feel absolutely relaxed and positive
When you go on a vacation and live in some of the very best hotel rooms and cottages that feeling of calmness and peacefulness is simply amazing
Create a similar sort of experience in your Bedroom and you will be feeling an extra ounce of energy and positivity
Buy new comfortable bed-sheets, buy some home decors to make the place lit up, use room fresheners, place some plants in the room to make way for some fresh oxygen
All in all, make it the place you would love to spend time in
9. Find Purpose at Work
We spend about a third of our Life and almost half the Time we are awake at Work be it in office, factory, shop or your Home Office
And hence how we spend this Time decides the way we feel
Surveys reveal that the people who know how their work impacts the world to be a better place, are not only more happy and satisfied but also have a better work performance
So find out the impact that your job creates in the Life of people, as not everybody can be doing charity as their full time job.
An electrical engineer working at a multi national, building substations and erecting electricity towers at remote stations may feel how the hell am I impacting the society, but again a true reality which he needs to see is that it is because of his efforts that even the remotest of the towns and cities are getting electricity and hence is influencing the lives of millions in getting better education, healthcare and overall a better place to live in.
A janitor in a similar manner is helping societies and educational institutes live, work and shape the future leaders without having to worry about any external intruders to disturb them
Similarly everyone is creating and impacting society positively in some way or another, some are more obviously visible while others may not be that visible but are equally and sometimes even more important and critical.
Find that purpose and value that you are offering to the society and you will be happily seeing a boost in not only your happiness but also your work performance
Read " 8 Ways to Improve Work Performance " for more tips and strategies to Make your Office life worth living
And hence how we spend this Time decides the way we feel
Surveys reveal that the people who know how their work impacts the world to be a better place, are not only more happy and satisfied but also have a better work performance
So find out the impact that your job creates in the Life of people, as not everybody can be doing charity as their full time job.
An electrical engineer working at a multi national, building substations and erecting electricity towers at remote stations may feel how the hell am I impacting the society, but again a true reality which he needs to see is that it is because of his efforts that even the remotest of the towns and cities are getting electricity and hence is influencing the lives of millions in getting better education, healthcare and overall a better place to live in.
A janitor in a similar manner is helping societies and educational institutes live, work and shape the future leaders without having to worry about any external intruders to disturb them
Similarly everyone is creating and impacting society positively in some way or another, some are more obviously visible while others may not be that visible but are equally and sometimes even more important and critical.
Find that purpose and value that you are offering to the society and you will be happily seeing a boost in not only your happiness but also your work performance
Read " 8 Ways to Improve Work Performance " for more tips and strategies to Make your Office life worth living
10. Become a Great Finisher
Almost all of us are good starters but sadly only a few of us know how to finish well and that is what makes all the difference.
You might have seen a lot of people start new things almost every month be it a new hobby or some new resolution or a new business idea and one month down the line they are not even remembering it.
This is where you can make a difference.
Make it a habit to finish what you have started in the stipulated time frame.
Put motivating notes and banners if possible around you to keep you focused on achieving the target you set for yourself
Finishing things on Time and honoring your commitments as I have pointed out earlier will make you feel happy and appreciated in the sense that it will foster the belief in you that "Whatever you say, you Achieve" and that can boost your confidence and happiness in the best possible way
You might have seen a lot of people start new things almost every month be it a new hobby or some new resolution or a new business idea and one month down the line they are not even remembering it.
This is where you can make a difference.
Make it a habit to finish what you have started in the stipulated time frame.
Put motivating notes and banners if possible around you to keep you focused on achieving the target you set for yourself
Finishing things on Time and honoring your commitments as I have pointed out earlier will make you feel happy and appreciated in the sense that it will foster the belief in you that "Whatever you say, you Achieve" and that can boost your confidence and happiness in the best possible way
11. Be Generous and Practice Charity
Generosity, Charity and Gratitude are amongst the top reasons that brings happiness and is infact one of the factor considered for rating countries on happiness index
The people who lived generously are found to be much more happy and content with their lives than others.
Infact the very thought of doing charity work and showing generosity can trigger happiness in humans
Volunteer for some charity work once in a while be it volunteering for feeding some people, teaching someone, doing some physical labor or in whatever way you can add some value to people's lives
Volunteering is linked to health benefits like lowering blood pressure and decreased mortality rates
Practice charity and express gratitude in whatever way possible as often as you can, it doesn't always have to be some monetary benefits, even a simple smile to a lonely depressed soul is worth more than millions of dollars
Make it a part of yourself and you will be experiencing the best form of Happiness throughout your Life
The people who lived generously are found to be much more happy and content with their lives than others.
Infact the very thought of doing charity work and showing generosity can trigger happiness in humans
Volunteer for some charity work once in a while be it volunteering for feeding some people, teaching someone, doing some physical labor or in whatever way you can add some value to people's lives
Volunteering is linked to health benefits like lowering blood pressure and decreased mortality rates
Practice charity and express gratitude in whatever way possible as often as you can, it doesn't always have to be some monetary benefits, even a simple smile to a lonely depressed soul is worth more than millions of dollars
Make it a part of yourself and you will be experiencing the best form of Happiness throughout your Life
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